Patience

We always here people saying that patience is a virtue, and that everyone needs more patience. Patience is a very funny thing. It is one of those things you need, but how much of it? There is a such thing as too much patience, and when mixed with optimism it causes conflict.

Patience is generally a good thing. It allows us to not complain when we don't get our food right on time, or when we are stuck in traffic. Patience is also a key component in teaching as the teacher must wait for the student to reach their level of knowledge. Patience would allow the teacher to take the time to be able to teach the student at the pace that the student requires. An impatient teacher would not be beneficial to the student as then the teacher will teach things the student is not ready for, causing the student to no longer pay attention, which in the end creates apathy and hatred for the subject.

As I said earlier though, patience can sometimes tun into a bad thing. An example of this can be seen in some relationships. Say there is a guy and a girl and the two like each other. The guy is otherwise preoccupied such as a guy normally is. The guy also has family issues in which the girl helps him out and supports him the whole time. The closeness brings them together and they start seeing each other. But by choosing this guy the girl has caused anger to some of her friends and the guy is also too distracted with family issues. This is where the problem arises of what the girl should do. Being optimistic and patient may in the end hurt the girl more than she realises. She can sit there and wait forever for the guy to turn around and stop having family issues, or for her friends to realise that she is seriously not doing anything wrong. This patience though can sometimes hurt the girl so much that it will overburden them. This is why sometimes patience is not a necessarily good thing. It causes you to put yourself through torchure in the hopes that one day it will get better in the situation you are in, even though you can always just change the situation and reap benefits almost immediately.

So in the end I recommend that people stay being patient, but to not force themselves to be patient if by doing so causes them to harm themselves mentally, physically, emotionally or otherwise.

Impatiently,
-Aram the Garmo